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Happiness Tip 19 and 20
Vivienne Barnes, Happiness Coach
Waterfall photo by Andrei Niemimaki
Welcome to Week 19 & 20 as these two tip elements go well together..

The essence is 'thoughts don't make facts'...so imagine a young girl whose parents or guardians, aunts or uncles and so on, have told her how pretty she is, how perfect she is, what a great figure she has, how very lovely her hair...and so on...and guess what..she can end up believing it to be true!..

and what can happen is that when she gets into a relationship she could become needy of being made to continually feel like a princess all her life because deep inside she has a need to be told how pretty, perfect and so on she is...

and whether she is no one should need to be continually told this...it's simply just too needy...and can be exhausting for friends, family and colleagues..

Similarly, and with a different slant on the same theme, and just for balance imagine a young boy...and all his life he has been told by his parents or guardians and so on, how clever he is, how bright he is, how gifted and so on...and then guess what..he believes what he has been told all his life...

and then he wonders why he struggles with his exams, why he drops out of college or uni, ...he probably didn't realise he should study...he should have revised and so on..

So..have a think about how you think about yourself...does it serve you...has your life evolved as you would wish?..if not perhaps take a look at what you think about yourself and see if it stands the reality check.

Also by Vivienne Barnes...
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Happiness Tip 19 and 20, 19th July 2017, 11:52 AM