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4:00 AM 9th October 2021

Saturday Essay: 10 Strategies To Help You To Reset If You Are Feeling Overworked And Overwhelmed

The recent annual Women in the Workplace report from McKinsey & Co. and LeanIn.Org found that the gap between women and men who say they are burned out has nearly doubled in the last year. In the US survey, 42% of women and 35% of men reported feeling burned out often or almost always in 2021, compared to 32% of women and 28% of men last year.

Your brain and body can only handle feeling overworked and overwhelmed for so long. If you consistently experience high levels of stress without taking steps to manage or reduce it, exhaustion will take over

To help you to reset, online supplier of discounted contact lenses and eye care products, Feel Good Contacts, has partnered with psychologist Jan P. de Jonge to offer 10 strategies to keep stress at bay.

Image by congerdesign from Pixabay
Image by congerdesign from Pixabay
Have a healthy relationship with the news

Try to limit stressors. Whether you’re doom-scrolling or glued to the anxiety-inducing 24-hour news channels, it is important that you consume news in a healthy way. Try to find a balance between being informed but not overwhelmed. Do this by limiting news consumption to set times during the day and preferably not when you should be relaxing, e.g. during meal times or at bed time.

See failure as a positive

If things haven’t worked out as expected, then don’t see it as a failure. Treat yourself with kindness and learn to accept that things go wrong from time to time. Be positive; see the failure as a lesson for the future.

Recalibrate your priorities

Are you working too many hours? Have you said “Yes” too often and too easily? Have you booked up all your available time? Is everything important? Chances are you feel stressed and alienated from those close to you. Address this by recalibrating your priorities and review how much time you spend on each habitual activity. You and those around you will be happier for it.

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Image by cocoparisienne from Pixabay
Get off to a good start

Get up a little earlier, drink water and do some exercise. Prepare your breakfast without relying too much on processed food. Get some fresh air and try to absorb some natural daylight - it will help you to sleep better. Decide which eight to ten tasks you would like to do today and make sure you accomplish the four or five most important tasks on that list. After all, tomorrow is another day.

Gratitude tracking for a positive mindset

Set aside one minute a day for gratitude tracking. There is no need to overthink things. You simply need to focus on the small moments/successes that you don’t always acknowledge. This could include having a cup of coffee without being disturbed or a surprisingly sunny day.

Limit screen time

Our work and home life are becoming increasingly blurred, so try to limit your screen time when you're not working. We all know how bad it can be for your health. Also, stress and sleep don’t mix, so it’s important to use the time before you go to bed to de-stress. Reduce your exposure to screens in the hours leading to bedtime. The blue light emitted from screens disrupts your sleep-wake cycle and can lead to wakefulness and lower quality sleep.

Image by Jonathan SautterImage by Jonathan Sautter
Stretch like an animal

The multi-million-pound yoga industry is built around it, and animals understand this better than humans do. To wake yourself up after (hopefully!) having had a good sleep or sitting down for a long time, we get ready for movement and work by automatically stretching our body. It’s what’s called “natural pandiculation:” yawning, stretching your arms, arching your back, making yourself as stretched out as possible after first tensing your muscles. Try to become more aware of your own body by contracting your muscles, stretching out slowly and then releasing... it's relaxing.


Showing your appreciation to another person (even if you can only do this by email or some other remote form of communication) will be warmly received and also lift your mood.

Forget give and take

Give up your belief in "give and take" and adopt a new "give and be given" approach. In other words: give out some unconditional love. It is likely that doing this may well increase your chances of getting some kindness in return. But the key trick is to not bank on it – do not expect to be able to ‘take’ anything in return. And, after all, giving unconditional kindness and care is itself a huge mood booster.

Image by Steve Buissinne
Image by Steve Buissinne
Bust a move

Improve your mood by doing some exercise. Start with small steps - small goals that are very easy to achieve. Don’t worry about finishing, but make sure you make a start. Exercise really makes you feel better.

Jan P. de Jonge
Jan P. de Jonge
Jan P. de Jonge is Founder/Managing Director at People Business Psychology Ltd and a business psychologist with some 20 years’ experience in business psychology consultancy. He set up People Business Psychology Ltd. in 2012. Within the field of organisational psychology, Jan has a particular interest in the interplay between individual ability, performance, personality, leadership effectiveness and style, emotional intelligence and organisational culture. A published author and regular blogger on a range of subjects from a psychological angle, Jan is also a Principal Practitioner of the UK-based Association of Business Psychologists (ABP) and a member of the Chartered Institute of Personnel and Development (CIPD), the IoD (Institute of Directors) and the FSB (Federation of Small Businesses).